Tonight we went to our first tol, a Korean-style first birthday party.  It was quite an extravagant event.  A family we met while we were in Virginia in 2004 invited us for their daughter’s first birthday.  The tol, or first birthday, a big milestone in a child’s life and cause for huge celebration in Korea.  While a first birthday party for an American child often consists of a small gathering of friends and family who celebrate the occasion with a birthday cake and candles, perhaps even at McDonald’s, a Korean tol is much more elaborate.  The mom who invited us to celebrate her daughter’s birthday insisted that this tol was a middling affair, but I was very impressed.  She rented the entire floor at a restaurant that specializes in hosting tol in a building overlooking Toksu Palace in downtown Seoul.  It must have cost hundreds of dollars.  The party featured a full buffet with dessert table and an assortment of drinks.  The spread was delicious.  The centerpiece of the tol is a dais situated above the attendees where the child is seated amidst a bounty of food and gifts.  The tol at tonight’s event was a table, behind which the proud parents stood with their daughter in their arms in front of a big cake, surrounded by colorful pink and lavender balloons. 
An emcee hosted the event, offering a play-by-play account of the action.  The birthday girl’s parents placed five different objects in front of their daughter in the hope that she will choose one of them:  1) A microphone; 2) A stethoscope; 3) Pencils; 4) Money; and 5) Yarn.  The five objects represent entertainment, medicine, education, wealth, and longevity.  Whichever object the one-year-old child chooses allegedly determines his or her future.  The emcee announced that the birthday girl had chosen the microphone, a symbol that she will have a very entertaining life.  Afterwards, the emcee hosted a raffle and gave away gifts to members of the audience.  I was given a number, but I’m glad my name didn’t come up because the dialogue was in Korean, not English.  I was told that if I had been chosen, I would have had had to wish the child well with some pithy saying in order to claim my gift.  While I wish the birthday girl well, I was happy to let the Koreans do the public well wishing.
Why is a child’s first birthday such a big occasion in South Korea?  Even as recently as the 1970s, child mortality in South Korea was very high (it is still very high in North Korea).  Many child died before their first birthday.  If they reached their first birthday, their chances of long-term survival increased substantially.  The tol is a Korean traditional celebration the optimism that the child will live to at least adulthood.  Nowadays, the event is thankfully more of a formality than an actual affirmation that a Korean child will survive infancy.
For the Shutterbugs:  I posted three new photo albums from our trip to Jeju Island.  Enjoy!

Books by MG EdwardsMG Edwards is a writer of books and stories in the thriller and science fiction-fantasy genres. He also writes travel adventures and children’s books. A former U.S. diplomat, he served in South Korea, Paraguay, and Zambia before leaving the Foreign Service to write full time.

Edwards is author of six books. His memoir, Kilimanjaro: One Man’s Quest to Go Over the Hill, was finalist for the Book of the Year Award and the Global eBook Award. He has published four children’s picture books in the World Adventurers for Kids Series: Alexander the Salamander; Ellie the Elephant; Zoe the Zebra; and a collection featuring all three stories. His book Real Dreams: Thirty Years of Short Stories is an anthology of 15 short stories.

Edwards lives in Taipei, Taiwan with his family. He has also lived in Austria, Singapore and Thailand. For more books or stories by M.G. Edwards, visit his web site at or contact him by e-mail at or on Twitter @m_g_edwards.

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  1. It's Tava Time's Gravatar It's Tava Time
    October 7, 2006    

    I have to say… "What an incredibly small world!"
    I stumbled upon your blog from the MSN homepage, intrigued by an American bloggers living in Seoul. As I was browsing your entries, I can upon this one and realized I know exactly who you are speaking of and if I hadn’t taken an emergency trip to the States I would have been at the same event! Wow! It was fun to hear your version of the party as I have told Mrs. W that I am most anxious to see the photographs! 

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